Each gathering is 60 minutes, held online via Zoom. We open with a gentle grounding practice, move through sharing and listening, and some reflective writing. We close with a poem and small ritual practice. Cameras and sharing are always optional. Nothing is required of you except your presence.

Once you've chosen your membership and completed payment, you'll receive a confirmation email with everything you need — including links to register for upcoming gatherings via our scheduling system. Be sure to add community@thegrievery.com to your contacts so it doesn't land in spam.

Membership gives you access to all three of our monthly grief gatherings — the General Grief Gathering (15th), the Queer Grief Gathering (1st), and the Ritual Grief Gathering (fourth Sunday) — on consistent dates each month. Additionally all members get discounted access to our workshops and trainings.

Yes, month-to-month memberships renew automatically each month. Annual memberships renew at the end of the year. You can cancel anytime via the Acuity scheduling system or by contacting us at community@thegrievery.com.

Both are grief-tending practices — they're just different in form, depth, and pace.

Gatherings are a communal practice. You bring your grief into a shared space, witness others carrying theirs, and are witnessed in return. There's something that happens in a room of people grieving together that can't happen alone — a recognition, a belonging, a sense that this is a human experience, not just yours. Gatherings are also the most accessible entry point: membership starts at $25/month, making them a sustainable ongoing practice for most people.

One-on-one support is a solo practice with a guide. It’s a dedicated space that's entirely yours. Sessions move at your pace, follow your particular grief, and go wherever you need them to go. This is where deeper spiritual development becomes possible: exploring your relationship to the sacred, to meaning, to what continues after loss as well as that which supports you through it, in a way that a group setting can't always hold. Sessions are $75–225 depending on length.

Many people find the two complement each other naturally — the gathering holds the communal thread, and the one-on-one holds the depth. You don't have to choose one permanently. Start where feels right, and trust that.

That's okay — you're not required to attend every month. The gathering will be there the following month. If you need to cancel a specific session you've registered for, you can do so via the Acuity scheduling system or please let us know at least 24 hours ahead.

Group gatherings are a community practice — and community practice works best when there's enough ground beneath you to be present with others, not just with your own acute pain. If your loss is very recent, raw, or overwhelming, a one-on-one session is likely a better first step. It offers a dedicated, private space to simply arrive — without the relational complexity of a group, and without anything being asked of you except your own presence. Once you've found some footing, gatherings can become a powerful ongoing practice. There's no right timeline for when that becomes possible — you'll know.

Yes — all three are included in every membership tier. The General Grief Gathering, Queer Grief Gathering, and Ritual Grief Gathering are each open to members, and you can schedule to attend any or all each month. Please note: The Queer Grief Gathering is held specifically for 2SLGBTQIA+ folks; all others are welcome at the General and Ritual gatherings.

We believe grief needs a container. When the same people return month after month, something shifts — the room holds more, trust deepens, and the quality of what's possible together changes. Membership isn't about exclusivity; it's about building the kind of steady, recurring community that grief actually asks for.

We tried a drop-in model, but ultimately noticed that it created friction at exactly the wrong moment. Our hope is that a membership model removes that friction. The gathering is always there.